- They think everyone’s been to Africa enough times to discuss which are the best and worst airports.
- They don’t consider you’ve been to a place unless you had to rent an apartment and pay utilities.
- They think the 11pm news is talking about them.
- They think they understand third-world problems better than the experts or the people actually living in those third-world countries.
- They think five years is a long-term commitment.
- They think malaria and dengue are perfectly acceptable diseases for children to be exposed to.
- They’ve heard gun shots, and are not afraid to tell you or your parents the story.
- They’ll try to cook you black and white pasta, with zebra meat instead of squid, and complain if they can’t find it in the market.
- They’ve eaten snake or crocodile, or both.
- They will celebrate strange holidays like chung beng and expect you to know what they are talking about.
- They’ll constantly be comparing your home town with their last destination.
- It doesn’t matter how hot it gets, they’ve had worse and are not afraid to tell you the story.
- They think having parasites is normal and a perfectly acceptable topic of conversation at dinner.
- They blog.
- If you complain about your internet breaking down they’ll remind you that children in Africa have to walk for miles just to get water.
- If you ever have relationship issues they will do a SWOT analysis (strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats).
- They choose furniture by weight and how easy it is to dismantle.
- They think being apart for weeks on a regular basis is normal.
- They are strange, or at least like to think they are.
- There are as many of them as the poor people that they are trying to help.
- All conversations lead to a time when they were in ….
- They drink and eat all kinds of weird shit just because.
- They are always suspicious of how real or committed other aid workers are.
- They come out last in the movies because they are trying to recover from the emotional shock.
- They can’t change a light bulb without appointing a committee and a sub-committee.
- Tableware is always ethnic and not always easily recognisable.
- They will question the Fairtrade claims of your coffee.
- You will have to hear the origin and story of every piece of original art work in their home.
- They can’t give birth to more than one child in the same continent.
- Will randomly thank you in Kiswahili or Khmer, and then attempt to apologise, in Kiswahili or Khmer.
- They read books by other aid workers.
- They do not know how to add and subtract, but can draft a 40-page document between the main and the dessert, which will make no sense to anyone other than another aid worker.
- They have silver card memberships and points to airlines you or the airport authority have never heard of, and expect you to use these for your joint holidays.
- They idolise people who nobody knows and speak of them as if they were colleagues.
- They take pictures almost daily and expect you to be interested in them.
- They ask your opinion about everything but they do whatever they want.
- Everything can be justified, even if it contradicts a previous justification or logic.
- They never heard of Excel, and are pretty convinced it does not actually exist.
- When arguing, you will be nicknamed after some dictator you never heard of before, and won’t be able to complain without having to put up with a condescending “What do you mean you don’t know who he is?”They will avoid fancy shoes because their feet are accustomed to feeling free and dealing with the rough terrain.
- They are writing a memoir and you are likely to be included, how is yet to be determined.
- They keep an emergency bag in case they have to leave the country with 15 minutes’ notice.
- They listen to music you have never heard of.
- They can’t cook a normal dish, they always have to experiment with new ingredients they brought from their last trip.
- They do yoga and meditate, but the real kind.
- They will attempt to read rare books of traditional indigenous tales to your children or your nephews, in the original language.
- They’ve experienced spiritual rebirth in Asia.
- You will never understand their gifts.
- They see ordinary objects and laugh.
- You can’t watch a movie with them because they will inevitably compare the movie with the real thing.
- They are always sleepy because they work 24/7 and are regularly jet lagged.
- When together, instead of competing over who has the best car they’ll compete over who’s been to the worst place.
Angélica Arbulu has been a humanitarian for over 12 years. She blogs about juggling humanitarian work with family life (www.onmotherhoodandsanity.blogspot.com) and is currently writing a book about gender identity.
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